unusually, I can actually empathise

unusually, I can actually empathise with Tom at the moment, although it sounds like he has made a bit more progress than me. To Tom, my advice would be this – find a particularly trustworthy and patient friend and use them to offload all your unrequited phone calls and emails. That theory is working for me right now – hopefully, that friend will be able to give you good advice like “chill out, be cool, take it easy” and so on. This course of action will save you from appearing to be excessively “keen”.